...people never understand what we try to make them understand, so it is far better that we keep mum . But sometimes we can't. We wanna scream in this night. We wanna laugh hard on the day in middle of our office work. But we are scared about the way people would look at us. Is it wrong that we are girls? We can always see those watchful eyes looking at us, as if judging us and our behavior every single moment. They underestimate us and our work just because we are girls. Why this matter so much? Matters like this always freaks us out.
Whenever there is a long journey , we- the girls have to hold the pee, just because there is no proper toilet on the way. And peeing into the bush near roadside at the night is not the proper/preferable way, but boys don’t face this problems. But anyway this doesn't matter to you.
Even if in a sunny hot day, we can't wear what we want to. Well, sometimes it's irrelevant what kind of day it is, we can't wear what we want to. End of discussion. We will always be called upon by people, and told that this is not the proper way to dress. A sleeveless lose tee and pajama is only for the boys. Even if we wear tight dress , they have problem in that too. But boys don’t have to face these problems. They can roam around in their shorts being top less. But this doesn’t matter to you. I guess.
A boy can have late nights with friends, or even the night outs. But what happen if we want to go late at night for clubbing, for fast ride, for ice cream at 3 in the morning ? Sometimes, we may wonder whether we will do be able to do such things if given the freedom to us, or will the fear stop us from living our freedom. The fear, of those boys who harass us at club , fear to go around for long ride, while looking in the mirror and wondering whether there is a bike behind us.Even as independent girls, we must depend on good guys. That please let us have our fun. But this doesn’t matter to you.
When we-the girls, want to pursue higher studies in a place away from home, and our parents have to think about every little details, from the college to hostel, from the area to food. Because that particular city had been in the news recently, being under the headline as 'unsafe for women.' But there is never such tagline for the boys. That’s why this doesn’t matter.
Have you seen any girl eating alone in a restaurant or enjoying the movie alone in the theater? Even if we want to go alone, we have to mention that : ! "Seat for a girl", and then the ticket booking clerk manage to give us the seat. Far from boys. But that’s not enough because even when sitting in the dark, we are always afraid of something even darker.
When we plan for the holiday trip, we have to double check for safety. All the male-friends can do the room sharing but we have to book separate room with extra money for safety. Still the night are sleepless being alone in the room. But you can roam around without any fear . But this doesn’t matter to you.
When people assume that girls, have no ambition, apart from finding the good husband, with handsome salary. And parents also thinks the same for their so called darling princesses . But they forget that not only does a girl have dreams, but also the passion and capabilities to fulfill those dreams. They also wanna live the carefree life. They may be independent, but they are still caged inside the rigid nature of the society.They wish they can get out of this cage, to be free in the sky. So they can go wherever the wind and their desire take them. to live their own dreams.
All things don’t matter for the boys now but when you realize that the Gender Equality is your issue, too. It is when you become a father of the daughter that these things will become a crucial the important matter for you. For only then will you understand that one of the best gifts you can ever give to your daughter, is the ability for her to live her life on her own standards.
-Kemil Ghoghari (With the help of J.)
Whenever there is a long journey , we- the girls have to hold the pee, just because there is no proper toilet on the way. And peeing into the bush near roadside at the night is not the proper/preferable way, but boys don’t face this problems. But anyway this doesn't matter to you.
Even if in a sunny hot day, we can't wear what we want to. Well, sometimes it's irrelevant what kind of day it is, we can't wear what we want to. End of discussion. We will always be called upon by people, and told that this is not the proper way to dress. A sleeveless lose tee and pajama is only for the boys. Even if we wear tight dress , they have problem in that too. But boys don’t have to face these problems. They can roam around in their shorts being top less. But this doesn’t matter to you. I guess.
A boy can have late nights with friends, or even the night outs. But what happen if we want to go late at night for clubbing, for fast ride, for ice cream at 3 in the morning ? Sometimes, we may wonder whether we will do be able to do such things if given the freedom to us, or will the fear stop us from living our freedom. The fear, of those boys who harass us at club , fear to go around for long ride, while looking in the mirror and wondering whether there is a bike behind us.Even as independent girls, we must depend on good guys. That please let us have our fun. But this doesn’t matter to you.
When we-the girls, want to pursue higher studies in a place away from home, and our parents have to think about every little details, from the college to hostel, from the area to food. Because that particular city had been in the news recently, being under the headline as 'unsafe for women.' But there is never such tagline for the boys. That’s why this doesn’t matter.
Have you seen any girl eating alone in a restaurant or enjoying the movie alone in the theater? Even if we want to go alone, we have to mention that : ! "Seat for a girl", and then the ticket booking clerk manage to give us the seat. Far from boys. But that’s not enough because even when sitting in the dark, we are always afraid of something even darker.
When we plan for the holiday trip, we have to double check for safety. All the male-friends can do the room sharing but we have to book separate room with extra money for safety. Still the night are sleepless being alone in the room. But you can roam around without any fear . But this doesn’t matter to you.
When people assume that girls, have no ambition, apart from finding the good husband, with handsome salary. And parents also thinks the same for their so called darling princesses . But they forget that not only does a girl have dreams, but also the passion and capabilities to fulfill those dreams. They also wanna live the carefree life. They may be independent, but they are still caged inside the rigid nature of the society.They wish they can get out of this cage, to be free in the sky. So they can go wherever the wind and their desire take them. to live their own dreams.
All things don’t matter for the boys now but when you realize that the Gender Equality is your issue, too. It is when you become a father of the daughter that these things will become a crucial the important matter for you. For only then will you understand that one of the best gifts you can ever give to your daughter, is the ability for her to live her life on her own standards.
-Kemil Ghoghari (With the help of J.)
